Emotional regulation (or control) is a child’s ability to monitor or manage emotions. Once mastered, it can be a potent tool which can be used to better familial bond/personal relationship, improve academic performance, boost learning motivation and emotional well being. A child that can manage his emotions effectively will not struggle with improper behaviour. That child will bounce back from disappointment or frustrating situations swiftly and emerge stronger. As a parent, it is your utmost responsibility to ensure your child knows how to regulate his emotions.
This article will guide you on the benefits of emotional regulation and how you can help your child effectively manage and regulate his emotions.
The benefit of emotional regulation to children
Emotional regulation is not just limited to the way a child manages his emotion. It also shows in the way emotion is expressed. It is a vital development stride which lay the foundation for a solid emotional intelligence. Children can manage their emotions listen better, express themselves more creatively and with less angst and deal with stress adequately. Here are ways in which emotional regulation can benefit your child:
Strengthens Interpersonal Relationship
If your child can regulate his emotions, he will be able to show more empathy. This attitude will strengthen his ability to build a more interpersonal relationship. Stronger emotional regulation will mean better friendship and stronger familial bond for your child.
Improved problem-solving skills
Problem-solving is one’s ability to find solutions to difficulties. A child’s ability to regulate emotions will mean he will be better suited to engage other persons as he grows up. This attitude will give your child the perceptiveness or insight to understand people, which will increase his productivity.
A more satisfying life
Facing upsets in life is inevitable. One way to help your child deal with these upsets and disappointments is by teaching him how to manage his emotion effectively. This situation will ensure your child becomes an adult who can expertly handle whatever life throws at him. This attitude is a prelude to a more satisfying life.
The key to managing stress effectively is by adequately managing emotion. Research has shown that regulation of emotion lessens the negative impact of stress. This will translate to the ability to have high emotional intelligence and resilience.
Fosters self-motivation and self-discipline
Self-motivation and self-discipline is a prerequisite for more exceptional academic performance and learning experience. These character traits will enable your child to stay focused and learn in a more dedicated manner. Better management of emotion will help your child work hard and avoid distractions.
Four Simple ways in which you can help your child regulate his emotions
Enlighten your child on emotions
Your child needs to understand and be aware of the way he feels. You can help your child to do that by labelling each emotion he feels. For instance, you can say, ‘why do you look angry?’ or ‘why do you find playing ball exciting’.
You can also label your emotions as well by saying, for instance, ‘I am unhappy we can’t go to the zoo today’. You should also, from time to time, discuss emotions with your child using a fictional character on TV or storybook. This will, with time, help your child to be aware of emotions.
Be a good example for your child
As a parent, you will want to do acts in certain ways so your child can emulate. It would help if you were capable of regulating your own emotions before assisting your child. Otherwise, the whole process will be ineffective. Children are very observant and highly impressionistic; they like to learn from adults about ways to regulate emotions.
It is essential to act as a model because your child will watch the way you act and try to copy. As a parent, you are your child’s first teacher, so he will be observing your reactions and the way you express your emotions.
Studies have proven that parents with emotional dysregulation are likely to have children who are not effectively able to manage their emotions. It means if you yell too much or throw tantrums when things do not go your way, your child will likely act the same way. The reverse is the case.
Adopt a warm and acceptive parenting style
Parenting style has a significant influence on a child’s emotional and mental wellbeing. When parents are sensitive to their child’s emotional needs, their child becomes safe and stress-free. This kind of parenting will help your child thrive emotionally.
As a parent, you need to be aware of how to manage emotions effectively to support your child’s emotional growth. If you tend to be antagonistic when your child expresses emotion, he will be incapable of managing emotions in future and be prone to meltdowns.
Create a positive emotional atmosphere in your home
The atmosphere in your home is one way to predict if your child will be able to manage his emotions. The summation of the emotional atmosphere includes siblings and parental relationship, your personality and personal attitude, your style of parenting, among others. An environment or climate where there is much positivity, acceptance, empathy and comfort will produce an emotionally healthy child.
So, you have a responsibility to create a positive atmosphere or aura in your home. Desist from expressing negative emotions so openly. Try as much as possible not to display excessive anger, violence or curse in front of your child. You want to live an exemplary life, worthy of emulation for your child.